June 20, 2020 11:15 AM | by Luci
Post #107: My Raw Mirrors (Part 3)
Counselor: Yes Faisal, please go ahead.
Faisal: Look Luci, I don't want you to feel like you're being attacked, and I understand this is a safe place, but hearing you say what you said is making me furious.
Counselor: That's okay Faisal, you are allowed to say what you are feeling, just try and be subjective and factual.
Faisal: YOU BLAME ME? SERIOUSLY?
Counselor: Calmly please Faisal, you have to remember the point is not to attack one another the point is to showcase perspective to start making communication efficient.
Faisal: It's not possible to be calm and hear your wife throw the entire blame of your marriage on you and only you. To hear that your wife has become the worst version of herself because of you. To hear that she was a woman who lived a life filled with joy and fun, but I came along and took it all away. To carry all the blame, and her to not carry a single ounce of it makes me furious!
Faisal got up and started walking towards the door.
Counselor: Faisal wait. Dina and Luci, can you please leave instead? I think Faisal and I talking alone would be better.
I was shocked, hearing the counselor asking me to leave. Dina pulled me up and we walked out the door.
Counselor: Just wait outside please Luci.
Faisal: How can you just sit by and watch her throw so much blame on everyone else but herself?
Counselor: That's exactly what I'm trying to do Faisal, I want her to see that she refused to carry responsibility, Luci needs to be aware of this issue before we move forward with anything, which is why I asked the both of you here.
Faisal: I'm sorry I lost it, it's just...
Counselor: Extremely difficult hearing, let alone watching someone live in their little bubble and refuse to see anything else.
Counselor: I'm going to ask Luci back in, and I need you to share an incident just like Dina did. Can you do that?
Faisal: Yeah I think so.
I walked back in and sat next to Faisal, he turned towards me and started talking.
Faisal: Luci, I need you to listen, and not stop me halfway as I tell my side of the story, just listen please to the very end.
Faisal: The day we found out you were pregnant, you broke my heart. You made it seem like it was my fault that you're pregnant, and we both know it takes two to make that happen. You never even asked me how I was feeling, I saw that you felt scared and overwhelmed, so I wanted to be strong and be supportive, but the truth is, how you blamed me for everything, how horrible our marriage has been and just walking away really hurt me. You never really gave me a chance to talk, you walk away, treat me badly and ignore me, and I always come to you and try to fix things because at the end of the day, I want us happy, but you being happy is not my responsibility or our child's responsibility; it's yours. Which is why I think we should discuss whether or not we should actually go forward with this pregnancy. Because if you had ever asked me truly how I felt, I would have told you, I'm not happy, I don't want to raise a child like this.
Me: You mean abortion?
Stay tuned for next week, Saturday at 11:00 AM (Cairo time), and learn how Luci reacted to all she heard.
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